Dear Abby - Family divided over immunizations
DEAR ABBY: I'm engaged to a man I have been with for five years. We plan to get married and move into another home as a family. He has three children; I have four.
My concern is, he and his ex-wife haven't immunized their kids. I have. We have agreed to disagree on this subject.
With the kids living together, is there anything I should worry about as far as kids getting sick? I have read somewhere that it isn't good to have kids who are immunized around those who aren't. -WANTS THE FACTS IN INDIANA
DEAR WANTS THE FACTS: Have you discussed this with their doctors? If you visit vaccines.gov, you will find an explanation of why vaccinations are so important and why parents should ensure that their children receive the optimum dose.
According to the Food and Drug Administration: "For reasons related to the individual, not all vaccinated persons develop immunity. Most routine childhood vaccines are effective for 85 to 95 percent of recipients." If your kids happen to fall into the unfortunate five to 15 percent category of recipients who haven't developed full immunity, then you should be concerned.
DEAR ABBY: My mother-in-law is a wonderful lady, but I'm having a hard time with her. She is extremely obsessive over giving my kids baths, changing their diapers and, basically, just seeing them naked.
I have talked with my husband about it because I don't think it's appropriate. I want to discuss this with her, but he thinks it's no big deal. -JUST THE WAY SHE IS
DEAR JUST: I don't know your mother-in-law, so I can't judge her motivations. It may be perfectly innocent. However, if something is making you uneasy, you must remember that, as your kids’ mom, you have a responsibility to protect them.
DEAR ABBY: My husband has a brother, "Tom”. He recently returned from college and is living with my in-laws. When he comes over, he doesn't bother to ring the doorbell or knock; he simply lets himself in.
I don't appreciate the lack of privacy in my own home. People should at least knock or yell hello from the doorway before barging in. When I told my husband it bothered me, he got upset and defensive. -DING DONG IN TEXAS
DEAR DING DONG: You didn't mention how long you and your husband have been married, but your home is not a bachelor pad that people drift in and out of. You are entitled to some privacy, and time to cover up if you are in a state of undress. That people ring the bell, knock on the door or yell to announce their presence is not too much to ask. In fact, it's considered good manners.
P.S. Keeping the door locked could help solve the problem.