Middle schooler’s hearing aids can’t tune out laughter
DEAR ABBY: Last year, I began to lose my hearing due to a genetic disorder and now I have to wear hearing aids. I will be a freshman in high school next year. My teachers all have to wear microphones so I can hear them.
I’m scared other kids will make fun of me for being different. I have already gotten laughed at. What should I do? — EMBARRASSED TEEN
DEAR EMBARRASSED TEEN: When people laugh at a person who has a disability, it is usually out of ignorance. Because this happened at school or another place where there is adult supervision, you and your parents should talk to the principal or person in authority so that person can speak privately with the guilty parties and explain why your hearing aids and the microphone are necessary. Your parents should also have a meeting with the principal of your high school before you go so the problem can be avoided.
When I was in grammar school, a classmate of mine had severe hearing loss. Because the students understood what her problem was, she was never ridiculed.
P.S. Making fun of a child who has a disability is a form of bullying, and should be treated as such.
DEAR ABBY: I’m 25 and have been with my husband for nine years, married for four. I cheated on him twice. He caught me both times.
Even though I strayed, he decided to stay. But now he treats me like I’m a child and a prisoner. He took away my phone, my Internet and I can’t go anywhere. He says this is my punishment for what I did. Do I really deserve that? I know we’re both wrong, but is he more wrong? — BROKEN WIFE
DEAR BROKEN WIFE: From where I sit, you are equally wrong. How long ago did the cheating incidents occur? If they are recent, you two should be in marriage counseling. If they were long ago, then you must decide if you want to live the rest of your life being treated as a child and a prisoner.
Your husband doesn’t trust you because you haven’t been trustworthy. But taking away your phone and Internet and keeping you under lock and key will not help you to rebuild it.
You two need more help than anyone can give you in a letter, and I hope you will seek it. If he won’t go for counseling, you should go without him because I don’t think the status quo can last.
DEAR ABBY: My sister and brother-in-law passed away two years ago. I am the only living relative of their 28-year-old son, “Louis.” He is a loner, spoiled and a poor houseguest. I invite Louis over only because I don’t want him to be alone at holiday times. My husband, teenage daughter and I have nothing in common with him, and frankly, he spoils our holidays.
How can I stop inviting my nephew without feeling guilty? Or is there another solution? I hate to make waves. — HOLIDAY HATER IN CANADA
DEAR HOLIDAY HATER: If you invite your nephew for FEWER holidays you will be able to ease your conscience, enjoy more holidays and allow the young man a chance to become more proactive in planning entertainment for himself.
DEAR ABBY: I may be wrong, but isn’t it presumptuous for someone to open the message card on a flower delivery before you get home when the flowers are for you? — KIMBERLY IN MARYLAND
DEAR KIMBERLY: You’re not wrong. The person opening the cards isn’t being helpful, but nosy. And it wouldn’t be out-of-line to tell the person not to do it again.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.