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Dear Abby- Plotting against ex keeps woman down

Jan 09, 2017

DEAR ABBY: I have been divorced for five years. Yet, I constantly obsess about my failed marriage and the fact that my ex has moved on and remarried. I plot every day how to make his life miserable, which gives me some relief. I have been to counseling, but can't seem to move forward. -CAN'T GET OVER IT IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR CAN'T: Find another licensed therapist and get more counseling.

Acquiring the tools to make your own life better is the healthy, constructive way to go. Keep busy with activities you enjoy so you'll have less time to fixate on your ex.

DEAR ABBY: I am married with two small kids. Last year, my job was outsourced overseas. Since then I have gone back to school to further my education. I'm miserable. I hate going back to school.

My husband, "Clay," is insisting that I finish so I can get a high-paying job. I'd love to stay home and care for our kids. Clay has never been a good provider. Paying the bills has always been up to me. Everyone says I should stick it out and graduate, but I feel like I'm neglecting our kids and I'm grumpy all the time. I feel like a horrible mom.

There is no way to lighten the class load. What should I do? -STUDENT STUCK IN NORTH CAROLINA

DEAR STUDENT: To stay at home and care for your children would take the cooperation of your under-providing husband, and he's unwilling to do that. I don't think you have much choice other than to continue your studies and return to helping support your family financially - including him.

DEAR ABBY: I'm in my mid-20s and haven't lived in my mother's home in more than four years. However, mail still occasionally comes for me at her address. Whenever it happens, my mother opens it.

Typically, she goes through the song and dance of telling me I've received mail, asking if I want her to open it, then saying she'll set it aside. Yet, by the time it reaches me, it has been opened.

When I try to talk to her about it, she claims that because she lives alone she's not in the habit of looking at the name on the front of the envelopes. -FRUSTRATED BUFFALO GIRL

DEAR FRUSTRATED: Mail is considered to be private property. When another party breaches that privacy, that person may be guilty of mail tampering, which is a crime. You should have explained that fact to your mother when you first realized that what she was doing wasn't an accident.

Because this annoys you so much that you have written to me about it, and if you haven't already done so, register your change of address with the post office so your mail can be delivered properly, and contact those who may not know that you have moved, so this won't keep happening.

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