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Dear Abby - Girl shys away from gym, not exercise

Jan 12, 2017

DEAR ABBY: My mom wants me to exercise more. Currently, I just walk a lot (in my house and around the block). I know exercise is a good idea, but I'm really self-conscious about it. I never feel like I'm doing it right (because I know you can easily pull a muscle), and I feel like everyone else in the gym is judging me.

Now that I'm 17, Mom expects me to be more mature about this. I don't even feel comfortable swimming in public places anymore. I feel stressed about it, but Mom just thinks I'm being picky.

Being in a gym makes me feel judged. I wish there was a better way to exercise, but I don't know what. How can I get my mom to understand how hard this is for me? -WONDERING IN WICHITA

DEAR WONDERING: Going to a gym can be fun if you do it with a buddy. Most of the people there are more concerned with what they are doing than what anyone else is. That said, going to the gym isn't for everyone. There are many forms of exercise.

Tell your mom you would prefer to exercise on your own. Then put on your walking shoes, leave the house and walk for 20 to 30 minutes a day. Listen to music when you're doing it and it will make the time go quickly. And on days when you don't want to go outside, put on some music and dance. It's good for the body and soul.

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married for 44 years. We eloped in high school and still feel like newlyweds. We built a successful business, ran it for 40 years and recently had an opportunity to sell it.

The problem is my mother. We bought a second home in California, but kept our first home. Every time I call to ask how she and Dad are doing, she responds with, "You don't care how we are. If you did, you would be here."

Our kids are grown, and we are enjoying ourselves to the fullest. How can we tell her that we have a life we love without her being so resentful? -LOVING LIFE IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR LOVING: You can't, because your mom feels you should be at her beck and call. She has had you close since you were a child, and now she may be feeling deserted.

I don't advise telling your mom that you "have a life you love" without her.

Rather than ask how she and your dad are doing, say that you are "calling to check in." Say that you were thinking about her. And if she starts in with "you don't care," tell her that you do care or you wouldn't be on the phone with her.

DEAR ABBY: If you go to a party and bring something, what is the rule of etiquette about taking it home when you leave? -PRACTICAL IN IDAHO

DEAR PRACTICAL: Before taking any of it home, ask your host if it would be all right.

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